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Crave 
and need predictability.
Needs met consistently 
to feel safe 
and develop secure attachments. 

This didn’t happen.

Blame yourself 
and feel crazy 
because your experiences didn’t line up  

Stress levels through the roof
overt tension 
and conflict.
Sensed all the tension.

You never knew 
what mood they’d be in.

Highly sensitive to criticism 
and conflict.
Work hard
prove your worth 
make others happy.

Because life felt out of control 
and unpredictable.
Try to control everyone 
and everything 
feels out of control.

Transitions 
and changes 
Sudden change of plans 
anything 
out of control 
trigger
anxiety
and anger. 

Routine 
and predictability
These things help you to feel safe.

People have let you down 
and hurt you.

You’re bad
or wrong
and unworthy of love. 

There is something awful about you. 
You’ll be judged 
and cast away. 
Unworthy 
Can’t love yourself 
can’t let others love you either.

You’re unlovable 

Internalized. 

Hard on yourself. 
Struggle to forgive
or love yourself.

Be perfect. 
Avoid criticism 
internal 
and external 

Prove your worth 
Perfectionism 
and low self-esteem. 

Strong need to be liked 
and accepted.

Rejection
Blame
Neglect
in your core

People-pleasing in an effort 
to avoid conflict.

Sensitive to criticism
Highly compassionate 
Caring person.

Took on responsibilities
practical or emotional.
Continue 
to take responsibility
other people’s feelings 
problems that you didn’t cause.

Hyper vigilant state
Problems when 
there aren’t any.

Anxiety keeps you trapped.

Coping strategies
and personality traits 
to deal with dysfunction.

Common

You aren’t alone

Healing can start.